The Fear of Rejection…
Being confident takes a lot of work. Loving who you are is hard when you are the only person who sees yourself every day. You are the only person in the world who knows every little thing about you; every flaw, every scar, every zit…you know it’s there. This messes with our heads. We are told that everyone is beautiful the way they are, but let’s be honest; we still judge people. We all do it and we do it without thinking. You may immediately feel guilty about it afterwards, but that doesn’t change your initial thought. Sometimes I have to mentally stop myself from thinking judge-mental thoughts, but I’m happy that I’m aware of it and CAN stop myself.
Knowing that you judge means that you are aware of others’ judgements.
This TERRIFIES us. It creates an irrational fear of rejection; rejection from a boy, from a girl, from our families, from society. This rejection, though, stems from within our self. It’s an annoying cycle that seems never ending; you judge someone for something, you realize the judgement you’ve just created, you then fear that judgement from others. If we all stopped being assholes just for a day, we might even feel better about ourselves in the long run. In fact, NOT caring about what people think can eliminate an enormous amount of stress that you didn’t even realize was there.
Time to get harsh. Life is not all about you. People’s lives do not revolve around you. If you do things to impress rather than express… GROW. UP. People don’t really care about what you do, what you wear, or what music you like. You are not important to strangers. Stop worrying about it and just do YOU.
When you stop caring and live life the way YOU want to, the fear of rejection goes away. You can live happy in your own thoughts and in your own skin. You stop worrying about what people think of your style, your hair, your body, your social status, your wealth; it all goes away.
I stopped giving a shit and life got so much easier. The fear of rejection doesn’t haunt me anymore. I am comfortable of my friend group and who I hang out with, regardless of what that person has to offer materialistically. I wear what I want, I say what I want, and I do what I want. Life is great.
When you stop giving a shit about what people think, you become a more confident person. Your mind will rest at ease and it will be one less thing you have to worry about. Life is hard enough on its own, why let something as stupid as rejection get in the way of living a happy, less stressful life?
This confidence I have acquired is real; it’s not a “fake it ‘til you make it” idea. It’s me, loving myself, and not giving a damn about your opinions. This confidence allows me to do anything I want. I can go up to a cute boy and talk to him, maybe eventually I’ll ask for his number. I don’t care if he denies me. Oh well, life goes on. I try again. I don’t see the point in wasting opportunities because of the fear of rejection. Don’t be scared to say something to anyone, you will regret more things you NEVER do rather than the things that you ACTUALLY do. If you ask a person out on a date and they say no, who cares? Who. Fucking. Cares.
YOU do. Why? Life goes on, you will be okay. Try again. The right one will say yes.
The minute you stop caring, I promise you your life will be easier. The judgement you have for others comes to a slow halt and you become a more positive, likeable, and relatable person. I hope that everyone can accomplish this and feel the way I do. It feels pretty great to be who I am and no longer fearing rejection.
Who really gives a shit what ANYONE thinks. I don’t.