The Good in Goodbye…
In order to be the happiest person you can be, you’re going to have to make hard decisions; decisions on which people you want to share that happy life with.
Have you ever felt confused by your feelings for someone? Like you didn’t know what you wanted, and when you were with them, you were happy and sad all at the same time? Maybe not…
Have you ever thought of someone who betrayed you, who hurt you so much…and you miss them. You knew you made the right decision by cutting them off, but your heart still aches at the thought of them. A friend, a girlfriend, a boyfriend… Anyone. Have you?
I have. I’ve lost a lot of people in my life-I guess that happens when you grow up. But you know what? I’m okay.
Any person who had caused me harm in my past, I’ve let go. I’ve let go of friends who were fake to me. I’ve let go of people I loved because they hurt or betrayed me. I’ve even let go of kind people; people who felt something for me but I didn’t feel the same way…I’ve let go of all of these people. I miss them but I’m happier now. Even if it hurts, it’s better for both of you. There is always some good in goodbye.
And saying goodbye to these people is OKAY.
I miss the friendships I’ve had with people before they betrayed me. I miss them a lot when I think about the memories they gave me, but that doesn’t mean I should keep them in my life. It’s okay to cut people off to keep yourself happy. It’s okay to be selfish. You will find better friends; friends who you love and trust. You’ll find friends who don’t have that knife ready to throw into your back.
It’s also okay to let someone go who you don’t have the same feelings for. Don’t lead them on, don’t cheat; let them go. It may hurt them and seeing them hurt may hurt you, but it’ll be okay. Once both of you are over it, you’ll feel better. They will find someone who is good for them and so will you.
And it’s okay to say goodbye to your first love. To any love. If you’re not happy, if you’re not smiling when you think of them, if you’re not yourself; it’s okay to let go. Everything will be alright, you just need to be strong and make those decisions for yourself.
If I’ve learned anything in the past twenty something years, it’s that letting go is a part of life. It’s always been hard for me to let go of anything and everything because I hold on to the memories that person gave me. But people change. YOU change. Everything will be okay. I promise your heart and wounds will heal with time. There is always good in goodbye. You’ll see.